"Single Bells"... Alone Not Lonely
The subject header of the email sent from an acquaintance read: “I Thought this would be Helpful…”
So I opened it and found a link to an article from Psychology Today called, “Holiday Blues: Single In the City” written by Dr. Robert L. Leahy.
The first paragraph said: "You are sitting at home alone, no one to share your Christmas spirit with. All alone, you wonder what is wrong with you. You dwell on past holidays when you were with that one person who mattered-who is no longer in your life."
Wait, wait, wait one hot minute!
Immediately, I felt myself getting upset. But my frustration wasn’t with my singleness this holiday. Instead, I was sort of aggravated by the other person’s assumption that I was struggling with the season God has me in right now when, in fact, I am perfectly okay with it.
I'm not sitting around crying, eating ice cream and singing "Single Bells, Single Bells, Singles all the way..."
I wasn’t always alright, but in 2012, I feel like there’s nothing missing in my life. So I don’t feel particularly sad or gloomy around the holiday season just because I don’t have any “special man” in my life. I know the difference between being alone and lonely. I also know there is nothing divine about being coupled up with a no-good man just for the sake of saying I have someone.
Been there, done that, got the raggedy t-shirt, and I am not interested at all in repeating that mistake thank you very much.
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