Sexual Mistakes & All: God Is Not Mad At You

Article By Dianna Hobbs:: The New A-list Author

I was reading a story recently about R&B singer Toni Braxton and how she, for a long time, struggled with the guilt of her choice to abort her baby.

After she was married, when her second son Diezel was born autistic, she assumed it was God’s punishment for that secret abortion. For years, it haunted her.

You may have never aborted a child as Toni did (or you may have), but have you ever felt tremendously guilty about a sexual misstep.

Maybe you engaged in premarital sex, indulged in pornography, or got tied up in a same-sex dalliance for which you hold onto regret and shame. Somewhere, deep within, you wish you had never gone down that road and you hold onto the guilt of it all.

Sometimes, the enemy even tells you that God is angry with you and He is punishing you for what you did wrong.

Denim (L) Toni Braxton (M) Diezel (R)

But your history is not your destiny. What you did is not who you are. There is more to life. There is more to you.

As long as you have repented of your wrong—and by that I mean asked forgiveness and turned away from that sin—there is no need to hang onto any remorse.

What’s done is done. It cannot be undone, but God can and will wipe your slate clean, and wash you whiter than snow.

Too often, though, we view God through cloudy lenses. We project our negative past experiences with people and their criticism, judgment, and condemnation onto our loving Father and He’s nothing like man.

God is not sitting on His throne in heaven rehearsing every one of your slip-ups, mess-ups and hang-ups. You shouldn’t either.

If you are reading this and your sexual history has left a cloud of shame, guilt and regret hanging over your head, the Son has come out and is shining His light of grace and mercy upon your life.

This is not to minimize the impact of sexual sin or pretend like missteps don’t carry any consequences. They do. Sometimes the implications are physical, mental, emotional, or even a combination of all these things.

But God still has a way of casting our sins into the sea of forgetfulness and remembering them no more.

My dear A-lister, wherever you are in your purity journey, however many mistakes you have made, God is not mad at you.

He loves you and is more than willing to forgive you for every one of your sins ever committed.

I’ll leave you with this scripture found in Isaiah 1:18 NLT.

Come now, let's settle this," says the LORD. "Though your sins are like scarlet, I will make them as white as snow. Though they are red like crimson, I will make them as white as wool.

The key is, once you make blunder, don't repeat it.

Your Abstinence Coach,

Dianna Hobbs

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Comments

[Ty]

We made the same choice as Toni. We were active church members too. Its awful. The guilt and remorse she speaks of is horrendus. It can definately eat you alive. This was brave of her to talk about it. It needs to be talked about. Keep praying Saints. There are a lot of hurting women with this secret sitting next to you on Sunday.