Time to Compromise? The Wise Way to Resolve Conflict in Marriage

recently read a great quote from the late Anthony DeMello that says, “There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.”

When I sat and chewed on what I had taken in, I thought wow! This so true, both in general and specifically, in marriage.

We all come into marriage with a list of expectations, needs, wants, and must-haves in order to be happy. Realistic or not, there is a set of values, ideals, and views we hold dear and sacred. It never even occurs to us that we could be wrong until we end up on the opposing side of a debate with a husband who feels just as strongly about his divergent idea.

Let’s face it. No one likes to be challenged in an area where they’re “sure” they’ve got it just right. But here’s the deal. Not long after we say “I do” and settle into the mundane routine of life, we quickly realize that our Mr. Knight In Shining Armor has some ideas of his own about what he wants and needs as well.

Like it or not, some of those closely held philosophies greatly differ from ours. Failure to accept that and conduct yourself accordingly invites conflict and severe clashes!

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