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Promiscuity In the Pews: Le’Andria Johnson’s Confession & Why the Church Needs to Talk About Sex

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When GRAMMY® winning singer Le’Andria Johnson, 31, admitted to her promiscuous past at “The Sound of Worship Experience” at Mt. Zion Baptist Church in Nashville back in July, she shocked some.

Many are not courageous enough to admit their sexual sin, but the “Jesus” singer was brutally honest about her habitual fornication.

According to CDC statistics, on average, men 25 to 44 have slept with approximately six women, while women in the same age range have slept with somewhere around four men. 

“I was in a place where I didn’t respect myself and I let a lot of men in and out of my life,” said the pastor of Imperfect People Changing Ministries in Hapeville, Ga, who weathered the 2012 storm of controversy surrounding her out-of-wedlock pregnancy.

“James, Keith, Derrick, Paul, thirty more, plus the ones I just called, forty more, plus the thirty I just called,” she continued, transparently telling the audience the high volume of men with which she’d had sexual relations.

CDC also says more than 27 percent of men ages 25 to 44 have had intercourse with more than 15 women. Among women, reportedly, only 10 percent have had sex with more than 15 men.

Johnson falls into the 10 percent.

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Though some might get stuck on the sheer number of partners she mentioned, Johnson touched on a point worth examining more closely.

Lack of self-respect.

Though everyone won’t relate to her choice to give her body away casually, secretly, lots of women struggle with self-worth, causing them to devalue the treasure that is their temple. So they open their legs to multiple men, not believing they are worth commitment and exclusivity.

“Can I just be real?” she asked, then said, “But God looked beyond my faults, hello? And he got rid of my Bozo and sent me my Boaz.”

Her Boaz, a church colloquialism for husband, is a musician named Forrest Walker, who made an honest woman out of her. Before the man who now travels with the singer put a ring on it, she lived a very different life.

“I used to wait at 4:00 in the morning, wait for the wrong man to come to me,” confessed Johnson while singing. “I gave myself away, but I don’t look like what I’ve been through…”

Despite a heavy engagement schedule, serving as pastor and making a name for herself on the national gospel scene, the gifted vocalist’s personal life was in disarray. Indiscriminate sex was a routine part of her existence.

Johnson, though perhaps an extreme case, represents a growing number of church attendees who are hiding brokenness and lack of self-love. Silently in pain, they self-medicate with sex, alcohol, drugs, spending and numerous other unhealthy cycles.

It is time for the church to take a stand on these issues. 

"Talking about sex in particular is critical and not just for the purpose of pointing out its sinfulness. In fact, if we only focus on the fact that the Bible clearly states fornication is a sin, we miss out on a whole other opportunity to examine why this sin ensnares so many," said Dianna Hobbs, abstinence advocate and best-selling author of The New A-list: Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder.

"Some women (and men) have been abused and cope with it through sexually deviant behaviors. Those who feel unloved and unwanted frequently turn to false intimacy to quiet feelings of loneliness and depression," Hobbs continued after being asked to comment on the story.

According to her, there are a myriad of reasons why premarital sex is raging through the church and unless we dig deeper to the root cause, we cannot help this generation.

"While we know that sin and our fallen nature is the key culprit, we must offer up solutions for dealing with the mental and emotional challenges that often accompany destructive sexual habits," added Hobbs.

"It all begins with being loving and truly compassionate enough to see beyond the sin and see into the circumstances that acted as a breeding ground for it."

Start the video at the 18:65 mark to hear Le'Andria Johnson share her testimony.

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Reader Comments (2)

It’s hard to admit that you haven't always loved, cherished and respected yourself. Even tougher than that is not the judgement from others but the self-judgement of having to look in the mirror and realise that unless you make the change then you'll continue looking to the world to validate you instead of reading the Word that will inspire you.

November 23, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterJackie

I can relate. I didn't feel like my mother loved me. My daddy was too far away too give me the attention and love that I needed and when I went to college and experienced sex for the first time, I felt loved. In that moment I was feeling like this person really cared about me and loved me. It was false satisfaction that I found myself constantly seeking with different men. Sex made me feel beautiful. Sex made me feel wanted. Sex made me feel loved. And ultimately, as I got older, sex made me hate myself, but I would still seek it out because I wanted to have that feeling of being wanted. I'm now 28, and still find myself trying to sort through the mess I created, and dealing with the self shame and disgust I have with myself.

June 11, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterRenee

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