God Brought You Out for a Reason; When a Bad Relationship Ends, Don't Go Back
It was a Monday and I was three weeks removed from the relationship with the serial cheater I had fallen head-over-heels in love with and I was feeling good. Just in case you didn’t read my testimony about the break-up that turned into a breakthrough for me, I recommend that you check it out here before continuing.
Even though I still cried a lot, I had also made a lot of progress. I’m not going to lie. There were days I wanted to answer my ex’s phone calls so badly, even after he did me wrong. And when he had the nerve to come by my Sweet Ma’s house one afternoon looking for me, I wanted to run outside and tell him how much I missed him. But my grandmother wasn’t having that.
I had never heard this short, silver-haired woman’s voice sound so strong and convincing as when she told him (while holding a broom, mind you), “You better never come back ‘round here!”
He never came back either.
But still, my heart was completely tied to the man who shamelessly did me dirty. I missed his voice, scent, touch, and laugh.
I missed everything about him.
I missed us.
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darling this is making me ANGRY. First of all who is leading our daughters to be with men who have NO concern or qualifications to be a FATHER, A REAL man would have said what can i do to help. Never mind if you have to say its not mine WHAT ARE YOU doing having sex in the first place and WHO failed where we think this is okay????AND God allowing a miscarriage, honey this is really making me upset. NO child should have to feel like this over some dude who is NO GOOD at being a real man..leaving a child is the height of irresponsiblity and im sorry no offense but MANY MANY women refuse to put up with that type of treatment and who told us we should????(i know im one) you have to know your value..i am furious...sorry great article though.
I completely understand your story, although not in the same way. It touched me and reassured me that God is able and I am not the only one experiencing hurt and pain from a failed relationship that God never intended in the first place. I will pray your strength as you pray for mine. God's Love. A. Verna'
Ashley, girrrrl you are such an inspiration to me. I've experienced a soul tie to a not-so-good man AND the loss of a baby was involved too. Actually, God just walked me through the heartache and shame of my situation a few weeks ago. You are one of the few Christian women I have to look up to. Single, Saved, and Satisfied is who I am learning to be at 23 until my dying day. For His Glory! I love you big sis', in Christ, Bless UP!
@meme I understand what you mean! After I was able to come out of the fog I was in and see things clearly, I went through so many different emotions. I was sad, angry, and upset with MYSELF for having stayed as long as I did. My hope and prayer is that someone will read my testimony and not make the same mistakes I did, or at least gain the strength to walk away.
@A. Verna, yes we will be praying for each other! Falling for the wrong one, no matter what the situation is a hard, hard thing. I thank God I learned from it even though I thought it would kill me while I was going through it!
@Britney, I am floored that God would send someone else my way who has gone through something similar! And I am so happy to be able to be a blessing to you by sharing my life honestly and openly. Thank you for sharing your comment! We'll stay strong together. :~)
Thanks for the comments ladies!
Ashley your story is definitely a testimony to be told. It tells us the power of a praying grandmother and a woman who finds that inner strength. It’s important to know who you are and who you belong to, to know your worth. Knowing when to let go and move forward makes the different. Thank God that he is able to healing the hurt and take away the pain.
I am so glad that u were delivered from a relationship that obviously wasn't
God's will for your life but I was disappointed that you didn't acknowledge
that your choices were not mistakes but sin + rebellion and that you didn't
Publically repent. Do u plan on staying pure till marriage or r u playing that
"The flesh z weak" game with your soul?