Just Do It: Keep Sex Alive in Your Marriage
When I first got married, my husband and I kept busy between the sheets. Every time we thought about it, we had sex—sometimes, multiple times per day. It was fun, exciting and thrilling.
We relished the freedom to indulge our cravings and were delighted that married sex was sanctioned by God. The idea of guilt-free pleasure excited us. We were overjoyed about being able to ravage one another all night long Saturday, without needing to make a trip to the altar for forgiveness on Sunday.
But the novelty of married sex wore off after about a year. We settled into a routine, which was a lot less frequent than the first twelve months. But both of us were content. That was all that mattered.
Then, about five years in, things really began drying up. We had a daughter. He picked up more hours at work and so did I. We had less time together and were a lot more tired. When he did ask me, I'd have a headache (No, really. I did.), or I was just too pooped.
That is when the reality of marriage and sex set in for us. We had become one of "those couples" we said we didn't want to be. We had really slowed down on the intimacy, not because we didn't love each other, but because life got in the way of love-making.
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