Article By Ronda Mitchell // EEW Magazine Purity
According to Christian singer Ciara, expectant wife of NFL star Russell Wilson, abstaining strengthens friendship, which is the cornerstone of a healthy romantic relationship.
“I really believe that when you focus on a friendship, you have the opportunity to build a strong foundation for a relationship,” said the R&B vocalist in a new interview with Cosmopolitan South Africa.
The blissfully happy newlywed star is covering the publication’s February 2017 issue.
Though celibacy governed her romance with Russell, it wasn’t previously a reality in her relationship with former fiance’ Future.
In 2014, while dating Future, real name Nayvadius Wilburn, according to the rapper, the two got it on pretty quickly. Now the exes share a 2-year-old son, Future Jr.
She and Russell did things a lot differently, agreeing to practice abstinence, firmly rooting their budding relationship in friendship and faith.
“Once you know you’re really great friends and you’re what we call ‘equally yoked,’ where you share the same values or the same outlook on life, it kind of sets the tone,” explained the “Goodies” performer.
The 31-year-old added, “Knowing that you’ll always have the friendship and that you can always go back to it is very important, and very powerful.”
In July 2015, when Ciara and the head of the Why Not You Foundation went public with their courtship, Russell revealed that there would be no sex before marriage—a viewpoint the Revlon spokesperson readily embraced.
"I said to her – and she completely agreed – 'Can we love each other without that?'” explained Russell, 28, in a sit-down interview with The Rock Church pastor, Miles McPherson.
"If you can love somebody without that, then you can really love somebody,” he said.
The theory held true.
Ciara now tells other women, “You shouldn’t feel like you have to give your body away to get someone to like you.”
And now that the doting wife knows firsthand the benefits of a biblical approach to sex, she takes her hat off to hubby. “I have to give credit to my husband for sharing those views," she said, adding, “It’s awesome how it all worked out.”