Enjoy reading stories like these? Consider donating to Empowering Everyday Women Ministries, Inc., a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization.

We distribute inspiring free content worldwide to edify the faith of believers and share the gospel with the broken and hurting. Our staff also launches initiatives and campaigns to benefit those who are overlooked, misused, forgotten and in need.

Learn more about who we are and why you should give today.

You can save lives. Learn more about EEW's advocacy and efforts to bring awareness to the epidemic of Autoimmune diseases that affect 50 million people, mostly women, in the U.S. Learn more here.

 

Devotion: Take your eyes off your circumstances MORE

Thinking too small? The word can help with that MORE5 scriptures to help you strengthen & exercise your faith  MOREGod is not a genie MOREDistracted by this crazy world? Stay focused! MORE 7 ways to receive divine revelation MOREBeing phony for social media likes? MOREThis Means War! How to fight against fear  MORE7 ways to be more confident in your calling MORE5 things not to do in the wilderness MOREIncrease your confidence in your God-give talents MORE5 ways to successfully practice abstinence MORE

 

Are life's detours slowing you down? Walk with Dr. Tony Evans through the life of Joseph and discover why and how God uses these unpredictable byways to bring about his blessing and reveal his plan for you. 

Dianna Hobbs is founder of Empowering Everyday Women Ministries. Her Facebook inspirations inspire thousands within  the Body of Christ daily. To read what she has to say and be inspired, head on over to her Facebook page by CLICKING RIGHT HERE. 

Got News Tips? Our award-winning editorial team wants the buzz. Send it to buzz[at]eewmagazine[dot]com!

Join thousands within our faith community who receive inspiration from Dianna Hobbs’ “Your Daily Cup of Inspiration” podcast! LISTEN HERE

David & Tamela shatter records

Tasha's charity performance [WATCH]

Fantasia returns to gospel roots

T.D. Jakes' preaching tips

EEW President miraculously healed

Tasha cobs weds

Travis Greene wins big at Stellars

Rape epidemic in South Sudan

CeCe's new tour

Missing black girls crisis

Stellars Founder's announcement

Fred's new indie film

Author's new tour

Kierra talks her prayer life

Yvonne Orji promotes abstinence

Bishop blesses LA men

Famine declared in South Sudan

EEW Founder gets big support

Pakistani Christians persecuted

Priscilla Shirer donates Bibles

Christianity's exploding here

5 autoimmune disease facts

Gospel DJ's support St. Jude

Tragic end to life

Casey J's new single

4 stars for John Gray's OWN show

Lady Jakes inspires youth

Eddie Long's successor

Gospel singer says watch your online behavior

Christian charity forced out of India

Read our statement of belief HERE.

How to receive Christ MORE

Get to know Dianna Hobbs HERE.

« Today's Devotional: Get your faith up | Main | TD Jakes gives advice on eradicating poverty in Africa »
Wednesday
Apr132016

Abstinence requires sacrifice, but it’s so worth it

GETTY

Article By Jennifer Williams

“Girl, I’m sorry. You ain’t gone get no man without having sex,” said my then best friend.

When I first told her about my switch in mindset and wanting to become abstinent, she seemed taken aback.

“You can do whatever you wanna do, but that just sounds stupid if you ask me,” she said. “When did you become all holy and Ms. Perfect?”

I noticed a tinge of anger in her voice, as if there was something else just under the surface of her comments. I later learned that she felt like she was losing part of me—the carefree, reckless, take any and every risk part.

Once upon a time, I was crazy. I was fearless. I never walked away from a challenge and would try anything once. That’s what my friend was used to.

She and I had done everything together since the third grade. We had some truly wild moments in our early twenties, but we never judged each other and went by the motto, “You only live once.”

But that YOLO lifestyle no longer appealed to me after I got my heart broken by a man I thought loved me. We had a great relationship for a while. But after three years of dating, I wanted something more. When I hinted that I hoped marriage was in our future, things changed. He started pulling away and eventually broke the whole thing off.

“I don’t want to feel pressured,” he said.

That destroyed me. I had given him all of me: love, affection, understanding and yes, sex. But he wouldn’t give me the one thing I wanted: a lifelong commitment.

Didn’t I deserve that?

He didn’t think so.

For a time, I retreated into a hole. I stopped going out. I didn’t want to party anymore. My life was changing.

One day, after saying no for years, I went to church with another friend of mine. She and I went to the same college and graduated about two years apart. I always called her the goodie-two-shoes of the bunch. She didn’t smoke, drink, fornicate—nada. She was as straight-lace as they come.

Since my life seemed to be falling apart, I figured church couldn’t hurt anything.

The first time I went, I enjoyed myself, but nothing transformational happened in me right away. But, for some reason, I felt compelled to keep going. And the more I went, slowly but surely, my desires and mentality began changing.

I wanted to be saved.

But most of my non-church friends, like my longtime closest friend, had no interest in being a Christian. So when I talked to her about my longing to change my life, she mocked me—especially when it came to the no sex thing.

That, for her, didn’t make any sense.

But it didn’t make any sense to me to keep going down a path that wasn’t making me happy. I wasn’t fulfilled. I was doing all the things everyone called fun. I was supposedly living it up and yet, felt a huge void inside.

I realized that this person I had confided in and spent so much time with, wouldn’t be able to go with me to this next phase in my life.

Before I had the chance to tell her I didn’t think our friendship would last, she sent me this long text message saying she didn’t know who I was anymore. She wanted to give me “space to grow and figured things out.”

I cried. It hurt. Even after I gave my heart to the Lord, I had times when I missed her. But she never responded to my text messages.

I had to move on.

Today, my life looks totally different. I am in a loving relationship. I am still abstinent. Jesus is the center of my joy and I am clear about what I want out of life.

Back in my wild and crazy days I never imagined I would open my heart to God. I couldn’t imagine life without drinking, clubbing and having sex. But there is so much more to life. I’m happier now than I’ve ever been.

Although I have lost some friends along the way and my circle looks a lot different, I wouldn’t go back to where I was for the world.

Changing your life requires sacrifices. It won’t be easy always. You will hit some bumps in the road. But you don’t have to accept less than you deserve.

Living life for Christ is so much better than anything else. If you really want to be happy, joyful and full of life, give up your will and do things His way.

Then you’ll know what pure joy feels like.

I do.

RELATED: Single, abstinent & tired of waiting? Here's some encouragement for you

PrintView Printer Friendly Version

EmailEmail Article to Friend

Reader Comments

There are no comments for this journal entry. To create a new comment, use the form below.

PostPost a New Comment

Enter your information below to add a new comment.

My response is on my own website »
Author Email (optional):
Author URL (optional):
Post:
 
Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <i> <strike> <strong>