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May222013

The Sheard Family Debate: Is ‘Hell’ Really A Cuss Word?

By Tam Hardy:: EEW MAGAZINE REALITY BUZZ

First, it was Kierra Sheard versus herself in a dilemma about tattoos, which she personally sees as a biblical “gray area.” Now it’s the Sheard men sparring over whether “hell” should be deemed a cuss word.

During Bishop J. Drew Sr. and J. Drew II's debate, the conversation got hot as fire and brimstone.

So is hell a cuss word? If you ask the Sheard family patriarch, it absolutely is, and it’s one that no child of his will use in his presence—something viewers learned in the latest episode of BET’s The Sheards.

The uproar began with a gentle debate over who should produce Kierra sheard’s new music for maximum exposure: J. Drew or super producer Rodney “Darkchild” Jenkins, who has the industry credits and name recognition to possibly get the gospel singer more attention.

Bishop Sheard expressed his belief that going with the bigger name was the better choice. His son did not agree, however, and expressed his passionate view on the matter.

“Dad, they don’t market songs off of, oh yeah, so and so did this beat…they not concerned about who produced the stuff. A hit song is a hit song. Doesn’t matter who it come from,” he explained, fighting to maintain his space in his sister’s music career.

Then, after Bishop Sheard gave voice to his disagreement, desperate to be heard, J. Drew turned to his sister with his impassioned plea: “I’m just giving my opinion on what I know about the industry, now. What I know now and I’m referring to mainstream, and I know a h*ll of a lot.”

Oops. That’s when he stepped in it.

“When you start cussing?” his father demanded, frowning and exasperated.

Though J. Drew tried to explain that he wasn’t swearing, dear old dad would hear none of it.

“I’m through now,” the shocked reverend continued. “See there? That’s ridiculous. Why you gotta say that in front of me? That’s way out of line.”

Realizing his flub, the young producer told his father, “I don’t know what to say,” adding that he didn’t mean any “disrespect” by his poor word selection.

But by then, it was too late. The damage was done.

“I’m appalled that you did that,” said his fired up father, rising from his seat to give J. Drew a whipping leave the room.

“Don’t ever talk to me like that! Since when—” he abruptly paused mid-sentence and commanded the crew to “Cut them cameras. Stop the cameras,” before continuing his yelling tirade.

But the cameras kept on rolling just long enough to catch a little more of the heated exchange.

Since when you start talking to us like that? When you start talking to us like that? You way out of line boy!"

Did J. Drew cuss? Is there an appropriate and inappropriate way to use hell? Was this a genuine misunderstanding, or did J. Drew need to be popped in his potty mouth?

RELATED: TOO FAR: Karen Clark Sheard chides J. Drew

 

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Sigh... Ok.... Let's just deal with this... the main issue isn't the debate about "hell" being a curse word. The root of the issue is the casual, borderline disrespectful manner that J. Drew interacted with Bishop. My parents are pastors or bishops but I wouldn't use that kind of casual language in front of them.

Grammar guide in the house: Hell as a noun (as in the Bible) is never a desirable place to be so even when used as an adjective (as J.Drew used when he said "I know a HELL of a lot more about the industry....") seeks to assert dominance or to fight for one's place in an argument, something which J. Drew sincerely wanted to do, not from a disrespectful place but from a place of wanting to be heard and understood. J. Drew has good ideas but needs to learn how to express them in a mature way (back to that conversation with Holly).

And I'm just going to say it: from the clip alone, I got the impression that conversations in that house have gone that way: children wanting to express an idea or opinion and if it is not the "right" opinion, then it gets shut down. When children don't feel like they can RESPECTFULLY say and talk to their parents and being heard without getting punished, they distance themselves.

Another quick issue: why is it ok for Karen to sing at "secular" singer Mariah Carey's tribute but J. Drew gets chastised for musical choices? Please understand, J. Drew's choices are definitely way out there but what's the logic in interacting with secular artists?

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commenter12345

Oh yeah.... I meant to add to my first post: The rant about turning off the cameras and the cameras stayed on for at least another 30 seconds (just long enough to hear more yelling)?

Reality TV is scripted and produced for drama and ratings, including this faith-based show. Stop expecting any kind of biblical grounding/representations. And for the record, I've watched each episode and they are produced/scripted well enough to hold my attention (like people-watching at the park). And maybe I watched hoping that this show would be different, esp. because of my DETROIT COGIC roots but.... Sigh.... it is what it is.... no (more) spiritual seduction....

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commenter12345

My parents are *NOT* pastors or bishops but I wouldn't use that kind of casual language in front of them.

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commenter12345

I wanted to ask if anyone else noticed that Kierra was just completely shut down during this whole process. She is a GROWN WOMAN. She should be able to do what she wants. This is unhealthy and controlling environment.

Secondly, J. drew in this case didn't mean anything by it I don't think. But yes, hell where I come from is a cuss unless you are identifying Hades as the place people will go to for the penalty of sin.

Third and lastly,I don't think it's cool the way are just getting rid of J Drew for somebody who has a "bigger name". I don't like that and don't think its right.

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterFanny

(In response to the 1st comment) To answer your question, "why is it ok for Karen to sing at "secular" singer Mariah Carey's tribute but J. Drew gets chastised for musical choices? Please understand, J. Drew's choices are definitely way out there but what's the logic in interacting with secular artists?"<<< Actually their problem isn't with him doing secular music and interacting with secular artists, because as you mentioned Karen did a tribute to Mariah. In addition to that Karen has also covered Inseparable, and has worked with a host of secular artists, so that isn't the issue. It's more so the image and the things that he's straying into while getting off INTO the secular music world. Hints, his new video "My Room" which can be found on Youtube. That is what his parents/family are against. Not so much the Secular music itself, but more so the things and image that comes along with the secular world.

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterStraightFacts

@ StraightFacts:
What does this mean?

**It's more so the image and the things that he's straying into while getting off INTO the secular music world. Hints, his new video "My Room" which can be found on Youtube. That is what his parents/family are against. Not so much the Secular music itself, but more so the things and image that comes along with the secular world.**

What is meant by "image"? That because J. Drew is PK that he should portray a certain image? Notice I did not say that because J.Drew is saved because really, we don't know if he's saved NOT because of what's in his video but because we weren't in the room when he cited Romans 10:9.

How can a video be the determining factor of things that he supposedly straying into?

Again, please understand. I know that J.Drew's choices aren't wise or prudent and quite honestly, I think that record label is playing him for a fool, getting him to do things that they wouldn't ask secular artists to do but because J.Drew is SO frustrated with the church stuff he's so open to participating in projects that distance himself from the church (not the Lord according to Romans 8:38-39), but the controlling social/political/religious structures from the church

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commenter12345

I love this family. Boy but j drew has a temper woo he gets riled up about everything he should take that and use it against the enemy lol

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commentermeme

Hey i wish he was my daddy i MIGHT married and have a job. Lol. J drew exhibited the fear of the Lord (a little) when dealing with his father and you can tell many youths dont even care when they get angry i mean hes angry bc his son is talkingblike the world praise Gd for that. I mean if i had that growing up i might have not had to go to jail. Andcyes h*** is a curse word. J drew has no respect and his daddy is done. Honorvis due where honor is due. I still love this family and will pray for them
PERSONALLY I WOULD LIKE TO SEE THIS ON THE WORD NETWORK I UNDERSTAND THO THAT WORLDLY FOLKS NEED TO SEE IT BUT I HAVE TO DEAL WITH NAKED PPL IN THE ADS AND OTHERS SHOWS MAYBE ILL DVR INSTEAD NO COMMERCIALS

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commentermeme

@12345 absolutely image. Bc it says in the bible if a man cannot manage his house how can he manage Gods church your children have a LOT to do with it. It says do not even give the appearance of evil..somewhere in the bible so first of all. They should b dealing with the root which is sin bc if hes still lusting in his heart but appears to b well not its still sin. But this family has a right to deal with image bc if you behave certain ways in the church you can b disciplined and put out so he must deal with it. I thought it a VERY unwise decision to do this show given pastor sheards influence and authority i highly doubt ge patterson would have had his family on a reality show but i digress. So still his son being in raunchy videos goes beyond this show we are talking about a reproach on the church at large and even tho its nit a huge deal it happens God will guard His reputation. I just think they may be going at it in the wrong way. J DREw needs to come to christ authentic Gd has no stepchild

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commentermeme

@ meme: Kierra and J.Drew are GROWN and J. Drew is no longer in his parents' house so the whole rule your house well no longer applies. More importantly, it would seem that Bishop has managed his household to the extent that his children have grown up to be productive citizens in society and they aren't in trouble. And when one reaches the age of accountability, then one has to answer to the Lord for one's actions, including J.Drew. He really doesn't have to answer to his father from a legal perspective. Biblically, yes. All due respect, and from an employer perspective since J. Drew works for Karew, yes?

So let's just call out the "image" issue for what it is: everyone who says "image" really mean "be perfect" and even our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ doesn't call for us to be perfect. And in this case (Sheards), be the perfect image of the COGIC legacy bishop's family to line up to be presiding bishop one day.

And many of the saints are under spiritual seduction/hypnosis that the pastor (and his family) have to be perfect. It's wrong, unfair, and idolatrous (idolatry).

J. Drew's choice to follow Christ has to be J. Drew's choice ALONE. No amount of yelling and controlling is going to make it different. And I believe God that J. Drew is going to be alright. J. Drew has to work out his own salvation with fear and trembling (just like we all do). It's much better to find the Lord where one is personally instead of pressure from others.

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commenter12345

@12345 i agree he has to decide for himself but to fail to train would b amiss there is not age requirement to obey your parents other than if the parents are asking something unreasonable or sinful Bishop Sheard is neither i think this boils down to rebellion and Drew has free will however we are always called to honor our parents.

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commentermeme

J drew is not married unless he has leaved and cleaved i thought a man would still b under a household authority i could b mistaken but obeying your parents has no age limit. In other words has he built a household of his own

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commentermeme

Its not hynposis the pastor is to b above reproach. Not perfect but above reproach God wouldnt put it there if it was not possible. Having your son dancing in lewd videos would not be above reproach there is mercy of course but the standards dont really change. And as far as i know even if children move away would that not still b his household not sure.

May 22, 2013 | Unregistered Commentermeme

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