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Donnie McClurkin Repairing ‘Broken’ Relationship with 12-Year-Old Son Matthew

By T. Scott/EEW Magazine News Staff

In April 2000, Donnie McClurkin fathered a son, Matthew, now 12. Though the gospel great views having a child outside of wedlock as a “personal failure,” he is on record saying, “I don’t regret my son. I love him.” Now McClurkin is on a mission to demonstrate that professed love by making “drastic changes” in order to be a part of the tween boy’s life consistently.

In a deeply personal and revealing interview on a recent episode of TBN’s Praise the Lord, McClurkin opened up about his complex relationship with his son Matthew in a way he never has. The “We Fall Down” singer is working hard to break a cycle of neglect that began with his own father. “Although my dad was in the home, he never spent time with me,” he told Kirk Franklin in front of a live studio audience—a mistake he hopes not to make with Matthew.

“That’s been my Herculean task now, to heal that stuff with my son and be that father,” he confessed, stressing the importance of family. “Family is everything to me…everything I have hinges on my relationship with my family and the only part of my family that was broken was me and my son.”

Though the successful singer and pastor of Perfecting Faith Church in Freeport, NY, who is gearing up for the 16-city King’s Men tour with Kirk Franklin, Marvin Sapp, and Israel Houghton, has supported his offspring materially, he has not provided something money can’t buy, which is time.

“I’m a good supplier. I’m a good provider,” McClurkin said, but, “I had to make some drastic decisions and changes just recently, just within the last month” to make Matthew a regular part of his life.

Though McClurkin praises Matthew’s mother, Kim, for doing a fantastic job with the son they share, he knows she cannot fill a father’s shoes.

“Now [I’m working] to relate to him every day and [things like] picking him up from school [is an adjustment],” said McClurkin, who transparently added that he is fearful of failing. “I got up in the morning and [prayed] a simple prayer,” he shared. “I looked up to God and said, ‘God, I’m afraid, so help me to be a good father.’”

Day by day, he is growing more comfortable with his role and is learning lots from an unlikely teacher. “My son is teaching me how to love,” McClurkin said. “My son is releasing me to love.”

This is not the first time McClurkin has opened up about painful and private issues to help others. In June, he wept during a conversation with CeCe Winans on TBN while discussing his molestation by two different male family members.

Watch the video below of Donnie McClurkin sharing his fatherhood journey at the 20:20 mark.

Perhaps the high profile Christian leader’s admission of failure and fear in the area of fatherhood will encourage other men to repair their fragmented relationships with their own sons.

According to 2011 U.S. Census Bureau data, over 24 million children live apart from their biological fathers. That is 1 out of every 3 (33%) children in America. Nearly 2 in 3 (64%) African American children live in homes without the presence of a father.

 

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I had no idea that he even had a son!!!! This is DEEP! I am glad that he is handling that aspect of his life. Children need their fathers.

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterPaige

i didnt know he had a son. im sure he's not happy about why but at least he has an heir. children are always a blessing.

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered Commentermeme

I learn something new every single day!!!!! Didn't know Donnie was a daddy!!!! lol I watched the whole interview and Kirt Franklin made a good point that you don't want to lose your kids chasing the spotlight. But I'm glad he's spending time with his son now. As a single mother I WISH my son's father would step up.

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterEbony

God bless Pastor Donnie. It is very courageous to put yourself out there like that. Matthew is blessed to have a father who wants to right his wrongs.

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLEXI

If more people would come forward and say I mess up , I'm not perfec, the church would be a much better place! I had NO IDEA he had all this going on but I AM GLAD he is speaking out about it. We are all human and make mistakes but when we work to fix our wrongs that what matters!

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLeanne B.

There's nothing like a saint who's willing to admit their wrongs to the world. Transparency and is needed in the body of Christ. Hopefully others (mothers and fathers) will take heed to Donnie’s testimony.

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterNESHA

Beautiful! I love his ministry even more now after hearing this. HONESTY is the way to go. Praise God.

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBev

Another reason to love this guy even though I never met him!I will be praying for you!

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJesslynn

Praying for you Pastor Donnie! This is marvelous! God bless you for stepping up.

September 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLynn

I am glad that he is restoring his relationship with his son; however, I hope he protects his son from the evil people that molested him (Donnie) as a child and well as the homosexual perverts that lurk in the church today. Parenting is hard and now that he is having a relationship with his son that means that his son will be exposed to the evils of musicians, preachers, etc. and Donnie must really keep an eye on him and protect him (since no one was around to protect Donnie when he was younger).

September 28, 2012 | Unregistered Commentergee

well said kirk. all of you are great men of God and yes i've followed yall for years in your music. @ donnie, man you've been an positive idol in my life and i look up to u. i kno u may hear that often but its da truth. i know yall have yall tour during next weekend, but i would like to ask u to keep me in your prayers as i compete in the black expo bobby jones comp. in jacksonvile fl. on oct 6th. yes, im performing to one of your greatest hits "Stand". i wish yall the best and safety as yall travel. "May God continue to bless you, as your a blessing to others."

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September 28, 2012 | Unregistered Commentersoldchyld

I LOVE YOU PASTOR DONNIE MCCLURKIN. IT TAKES A REAL MAN TO ADMIT WHEN HE IS WRONG, BUT IT TAKES A HOLY MAN TO MAKE IT RIGHT...GLORY!!!

October 8, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterHEAVENLYOCEAN1966

I paid close attention to his song "Ooh Child" and there's lyrics in there stating "Matthew daddy said things'll get brighter...." so I didn't know if he'd adopted a son or did he have a biological one! Most recently he was on Lift Every Voice talking about the tour and how the guys talked about their wives and children and he didn't have anyone to talk about....so i had to research..I'm so glad to know he's trying to make it right, before it was entirely too late. Its good to know that there's a true man in Donnie! Speaking from a single mom's perspective, I'm happy to see him give the mom credit!!

October 9, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBrianna

Im proud of you bacause you do the great thing to bond with your son.i hope the Lord will your heart and your son's

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December 12, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterdeby

It is indeed good to acknowledge your wrongs as I did. Due to long working hours and shifts I deserted my child to my family and regret every moment of my one day decision made that day, today my child turned out to be totally diferent from what I raised him to be. Cannot tolerate me, does not understand me, it's been just a miserable life. Though God worked out a miracle at this stage, things are way better than before now and I looked at this situation and see God carried me through it all. We all face circumstances where we feel bad about our past mistakes occured and fixing those is quite a hard work, and that is what we live with God after we've done what is in our powers and trust God in his unfailing love and faithfullness. It is more heavy when the second part see things in different perspective, but God being God sees us throgh in the morning and at night he never cease to watch over us.

January 3, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterT C M Nomthy

I have seen Donnie McClukin's story which was featured on BET ( I believe) some time back. He invited us into his life, to view his trials and tribulations. Our God is such an awesome God that he knows why this particular path was taken on Mr. McClurkin's life journey, and having read this article, it seems that he has realised the reason as well. This shows the measure of this man, and that no man is perfect, and we are all working through God's perfect plan.

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