By Savannah Hicks/ EEW Magazine Staff
(EEW Magazine News)-Gospel recording artist and actor, Deitrick Haddon, recently dropped a major bomb via Facebook on August 14. After 15 years of marriage, he and his wife, Damita Haddon, have officially divorced. Though the news is just now hitting the public (Some industry insiders have known for a while.), Haddon says “Our breakup is NOT recent! It's been well over a year process. We have both been have repented & moved on!”
His ex-wife has not yet responded to his public disclosure of the split. The former Mrs. Haddon also managed to keep a tight lid on the news of the undoing of her marriage during recent radio and magazine interviews.
Though many will undoubtedly speculate about what went wrong, “D Haddy” says don’t expect to get any further details. “I'm very private about my personal life,” he explains, saying no one will be able to get him to speak on it again unless God leads him to share the testimony.
During his public social networking rant, however, Haddon did drop some clues about the cause of the split. “I think it's important 4 people to know that in your pursuit of ministry don't lose family,” he admonishes, indicating that ministry obligations eventually overshadowed the relationship.
Haddon continues, “It is possible to work so hard & be so driven that you lose everything!! I pray that in the future i find the balance of ministry & family!!”
In 2008, during happier times, the then couple shared their secrets to balancing ministry and marriage in an interview with AOL’s Black Voices.
Mr. Haddon said:
It's like a flow with us and it's no big deal. We've always known that we would do what we do. When we were dating before we got married, it's no different than it is now. We've always had an understanding that we both would be singing and going across the country and the world doing what we love to do which is singing and getting on stage and blessing the people. It's really easy for us. It's all about scheduling and when it's time to go home, take your butt home. I can't stay over a couple of days and hang out like I would like to with my friends. After I do a concert, I have to go home and see my wife because it's all about timing and scheduling. If I wait a couple of days to get home, she'll be gone on the road doing her thing. It's all about doing what you say you're going to do. When it's time to go home, go home and when it's time to leave, leave. It's no strain, no stress and no pressure. We don't have any kids yet so it's really easy for us.
Apparently, it wasn’t that easy.
And the truth has now come pouring out all over Facebook and Twitter. Haddon says he and Damita have worked hard in ministry and “blessed many while bleeding ourselves! God is with us both but no longer as a couple!”
Instantly, many of Deitrick Haddon’s fans tweeted their support, with some noting that he is still a powerful man of God, to which Haddon responded, “If i was that powerful of a Man Of God i would still be married 2 Damita. I'm learning to have balance. You can win & lose @ the same time!!”
Jude 1:24 indicates that God is able to keep us from stumbling and erring: "Now to him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy." But we must rely on Him and put Him first in our lives in order for that to happen.
Many successful Christian leaders become so consumed with "ministry" that they forget their first ministry is to their family. Televangelist Benny Hinn admits that he made the mistake of neglecting his own family, causing a temporary split from his wife Suzanne in 2010.
The two have since reconciled.
No doubt, news of the Haddons' split has sent shockwaves throughout the Christian community, as Deitrick and Damita Haddon were viewed as one of the few stable couples within the Gospel industry.
Even though their marriage has crumbled, Haddon assures everyone, “Damita's doing well! I'm doing fine!”