By Saundra Wright, EEW Magazine Contributing Writer
Sometimes, when I read black magazines, blogs, and websites, I almost get sick to my stomach about the kinds of things I see. I constantly notice stories about black women not being able to find a man; the light skin versus dark skin wars; negative statistics about people of color that paint a picture of how unhealthy we are, and how we are worse off than our “white counterparts.” Can we get some uplifting content, please?
I know there are serious situations and issues—some discouraging—unique and pervasive in the African American community, but do we have to constantly zone in on what’s wrong?
As a black woman of faith, I don’t want to be inundated with junk and negativity. I don’t want to constantly be told everything that is “wrong” with me and all the hindrances inherent in black culture. I want to hear some good news, an optimistic perspective, and some valuable information that will help me grow as a human being.
Tell me about how I can overcome challenges. Encourage me to believe in myself. Highlight my beauty, not my flaws. Share stories of other uplifting people. And if something terrible is going on, it’s alright to discuss it, as long as generalizations about our entire culture are not made. Don’t let one or two bad apples in the bunch make news headlines; then we’re all guilty by association.
All these inflammatory trash stories, only designed to start controversy for attention, need to go. I know I might sound aggravated. That’s because I am. And for those who think I am just needlessly complaining about my desire for more positivity, I have a scripture to back me up on this one.
Philippians 4:8 NIV says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
This is the Bible’s prescription for filtering out and disposing of the negative things in life that will weigh us down, and keep us thinking about all that is bad, warped, and twisted in the world.
So if what we read, watch, and take in on a daily basis is full of garbage, we go against the biblical prescription for our thought life.
I am not a garbage can, so I don’t want to feed on junk all day.
That doesn’t mean that we have to pretend that everything is just peachy keen in our communities and the world, and never discuss issues. That wouldn’t make any sense. We don’t have to close our eyes to truth, because I believe the truth will make us free… if we accept it and apply Godly wisdom.
But I think we have rehashed certain topics one too many times and beaten a dead horse ad nauseam.
Is it just me, or is anyone else ready to move on from the usual “hot topics” that are divisive, controversial, and unhealthy?
I want to be uplifted and told what I can do, not what I can’t.
My heart’s cry is, help me do better; don’t just dwell on what makes me worse, or stats that support a theory so deeply tinged with negativity.
And even when research statistics show that certain unhealthy trends are occurring, I want to talk about the solution, not just the problem.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you feel the same way? What sorts of topics are you tired of hearing rehashed about the black community?