"Don't fret over a right-now problem when you’ve got a shall-be promise. You’re struggling right now, but you shall be set free!"

~Dianna Hobbs (Facebook.com/Dianna.Hobbs) November 27, 2015




JHud & Cynthia Erivo sing stunning rendition of 'Color Purple' title song MORE

Erica shares thoughts on gay & transgender people [VIDEO]  MORE

Gospel singer's surprise proposal is the sweetest thing [VIDEO] MORE



An inspiring coach gets a wonderful surprise on GMA MORE

An over-40 woman talks about her decision to remain celibate MORE

Love this: People leaving coats on lamp posts for the homeless MORE

E-commerce company donates a portion of proceeds to help homeless MORE

Beautiful ad promoting prayer banned from UK theaters MORE

Ciara says Marvin Sapp's song helped



4 things you should know about volunteering MORE

Meet Harvard's first deaf-blind graduate MORE

House passes Bill to stop allowing Syrian refugees into the U.S. MORE

Yolanda Adams teams with Disney to help youth MORE

Viola Davis shares sister's sexual assault story MORE

170 hostages taken, 3 killed at upscale hotel in Mali MORE

Jonathan McReynold's touring with India Arie MORE

Baltimore County promotes 1st black female fire lieutenant MORE

'The View' co-hosts compare Christians to terrorists MORE


Actress washes stranger's feet to be like Jesus MORE

Rapper Da Brat calls 'Preachers of LA' star D Haddy her 'favorite' MORE

Terrorist attack in Nigeria leaves 32 dead, 80 wounded MORE

Purity rocks! 10 reasons to wait for marriage to have sex MORE

A woman struggles to keep her vow of celibacy MORE

Meagan Good gives advice for pursuing purpose MORE


Click here

Tune in daily to hear EEW CEO Dianna Hobbs on Stellar-nominated WUFO 1080, 4-5 PM Est. LISTEN

>Main Site

>Daily Cup

>Purity Blog

>Get Prayer



The New A-list By Dianna Hobbs

« Relationship Advice: Act Like a Woman of God & Think Like a Man Named Jesus | Main | First Lady Michelle Obama Calls Trayvon Martin Death a ‘Tragedy’ »

Shacking Up: Research Spotlights Downside of Cohabitation

With premarital sex and cohabitation rates at an all-time high in the US, many couples fall into a pattern of playing house without committing to each other the biblical way, through marriage. Many justify their decision to live together with the “Try on the shoe before you buy it theory,” arguing the practical merits of shacking up.

But Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist at the University of Virginia wrote an article published in The New York Times about the downside of cohabitation.

“Couples who cohabit before marriage (and especially before an engagement or an otherwise clear commitment) tend to be less satisfied with their marriages — and more likely to divorce — than couples who do not,” Jay asserts. “These negative outcomes are called the cohabitation effect.”

According to the New York Times, cohabitation in the United States has increased by more than 1,500 percent in the past half century. In 1960, about 450,000 unmarried couples lived together. Now the number is more than 7.5 million. The majority of young adults in their 20s will live with a romantic partner at least once, and more than half of all marriages will be preceded by cohabitation.

Couples are playing house in staggering numbers.

Christians who believe that the Bible is the final authority in all matters, however, heed the biblical warning in 1 Corinthians 6:18 to “flee fornication.” They know the downside to cohabitation is being out of the will of God and doing what the Bible calls “sinning against your own body.”

On the other hand, those who approach the issue of cohabitation from a logical standpoint are a part of the two-thirds of people who believe that moving in together before marriage is a good way to avoid divorce by knowing what they are getting into.

Whatever classification assigned to a person—practical or spiritual—both research and the word of God shows that shacking up is a bad idea.

What are your thoughts on the issue?

PrintView Printer Friendly Version

EmailEmail Article to Friend

Reader Comments (6)

Wow great article! Love the spiritual and practical approach

April 18, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAngel

A lot of people are living together in the church and out of the church. In some circles (even Christian circles) it is not viewed as a sin to do so. There are preachers and praise leaders shacking up. I believe the Bible is clear on this that it's wrong. But it's not stopping people from engaging in the practice. Numbers don't lie. It's sad.

April 18, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBev

Many people who do this blatantly are very arrogant and bold about it. They don't want to hear truth. And I think honestly a lot of preachers are scared to condemn it because so many in their churches are doing it. It is a COMMON practice! They don't want to mess up their tithes and offerings. lol

April 18, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterTesha

@Tesha, you hit the nail on the not-so spiritual head!!!!

April 19, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterYvette

I feel like @Tesha is right about this one! I used to BE one of those people and honestly, I didn't want to hear the truth. I just didn't. I was content and pleased to dwell right in my mess until God got a hold of me.

April 19, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterKareema

Based on the many conversations I've had with those who are "shacking up", it's mostly the women who get hurt the worse in these situations; I never agree with their rationale and always direct to the WORD of GOD! I pray daily for my friends, family and acquaintances who are "stuck" in this ungodly circumstance!

May 3, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterA.Searuggs

PostPost a New Comment

Enter your information below to add a new comment.

My response is on my own website »
Author Email (optional):
Author URL (optional):
Some HTML allowed: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <code> <em> <i> <strike> <strong>